Monday 21 January 2013

Cat Walkers .... meow ...

Have you ever noticed how some Cat Walkers/Fashion Models never smile.  What's this all about?  They look moody, unhappy, sullen, unapproachable...

Perhaps that's the success of the Duchess of Cambridge - her smile.  Maybe us ladies are
not so interested in the clothes when walking wardrobes strut their stuff on the catwalk, but, show us a natural beauty
with more affordable outfits, and we are instantly interested.

The fashion pages in some magazines - scowling, blank, emotionless heads on skeletal figures make me flick the page quickly.  In contrast other pages portray sunny beauties modelling spring handbags or office wear.  Much more pleasing to the eye and worth spending a little more time studying the clothes or accessories they are selling.

Surely it's worth a genuine smile to lure a buyer of your product?  Leave the pouting and scowling to WAG's of celebrities.  Do you agree?  Comments below.....

DARN IT!!

A few decades ago it was common practise for wives or mothers to repair socks when a hole appeared in the toe of their male relatives' socks.  It required special equipment: a wooden or melamine 'mushroom' shaped darning stool that went inside the sock; a large eyed needle; grey darning wool and a thimble.

Females learnt the skill from their mothers, perhaps by observation or learnt behaviour rather than a sit down spoken demonstration.  There were no questions about it being worth the time and effort, it was a skill to be proud of and thrifty.  The pair of socks lasted twice as long saving the expense of a new pair.  All were happy with this arrangement.

Today, however, more and more women work - time for housework does not include darning.  It is becoming a lost art as the throw-away society disposes of lots of odd socks or pairs of socks that are no longer serviceable due to the hole in one of them.  Even though the recession goes on and on the habit of 'bin it' quickly solves the problem of a holey sock.  No wonder socks are sold in multiple packs. 

It would seem that some men do not understand this changing female trend of  seemingly wastefulness.  It is quite unfathomable as to why a perfectly comfy pair of socks should be discarded so easily.  They either go on wearing the holed sock until it appears no more in their sock drawer or leave it waiting for the fairies to mend without a word to anyone.  It was a given, an expectation, a normality.

For the ladies their stockings and tights would also be 'saved' by a stitch in time or with a bit of nail varnish dabbed on to the hole to prevent laddering.  These practises by young ladies today are probably as foreign as 'mangles' and black and white TV.

Change is a natural progression of life.  And now that also refers to updating one mobile phone, laptop or i-pad for another which makes a nonsense of recycling as few want technology caste offs.  New, bigger, smaller, faster, more costly, seems to be order of the day.  There is a sense of being 'left behind' that drives most people to try to keep up.

Getting back to socks.  So the fashion of foot and leg garments remains unchanged but how long they are kept for is minimal.  Are they even reused for stuffing home made soft toys with the alternatives available to buy in craft shops?

Is there a society of darners out there to keep the tradition going?  Did the army or navy teach you to darn socks and do you still do it? Do you use them some other way after their drawer life?  Do comment in the space below.....

Sunday 13 January 2013

SFS CRAFT TIME 12.1.13

SOUL FRIEND SERVICE - CRAFT TIME 12.1.13

A small, friendly group of ladies who enjoy crafting meet monthly in Tamworth, Staffordshire for a few hours of fun.  We arrive full of news since our last meeting and sometimes it is hard for us to get down to the task in hand.  However, we soon shut out the world and focus on our favourite hobby - making unique cards. 

After a demonstration of this month's selected theme we choose our card, papers, toppers, peel-offs, card candy etc. and settle down to creating some very beautiful birthday cards.  Scissors, rulers, pencils, glues and tapes are all on hand.  Refreshments are taken part way through the morning.

Much laughter is guaranteed as we share snippets of thoughts - our banter has become tried, tested and trusted.  The group is open to receive new crafters should they wish to join us.

To find out more visit : www.soulfriendservices.com
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Wednesday 9 January 2013

KEEP OR SLING?

Clearing the clutter part III...

I expect you think this picture is just a load of old jumble but you would be wrong.  This is the wardrobe of one young lady who wished she'd never have started to have a sort out.  It was a drastic move to oust everything from her closet and then, one by one, examine the item of clothing to see whether it: a) fitted her; b) was still fashionable; c) still liked and suited her; d) was not in any state of repair and e) was of any use to anyone else.  It was not a five minute job but after a few hours and several coffee breaks the wardrobe was tidy, the floor clear, and bin and bags for the charity shop were well stuffed.  A satisfying mornings work!

Another way of tackling this job is to ask: when did I last wear this top/dress/skirt/trousers etc? If you have not worn it in the last 18 months are you likely to wear it again?  Probably not.  So why have it taking up space in the wardrobe?  This can be a seasonal exercise if you put away winter clothes when you fetch out summer clothes rather than having all the seasons clothes hanging in your wardrobe.  Drawers under the bed are useful storage for out of season clothes; or a suitcase on top of the wardrobe or in a storage cupboard.

Even the birds have a tidy up occasionally - they throw out of the nest unnecessary excess.  Hoarding is a human habit!  We are reluctant to let go of old favourites, presents and those items that might come in handy one day!  But how much lighter we feel when organising our homes to be clutterless.
No need to wait 'til spring to 'spring clean' - anytime is a good time.  Go on, take the bull by the horns, tackle something today and feel refreshed and VERY satisfied.

COMFORT BOX??

How do you take comfort?
There are many ways but not all are for our greater good. Some of the not so healthy choices are overindulging in: eating; drinking alcohol; taking drugs; gambling; sex; shopping; smoking etc.  These are all readily available, often necessary (especially eating!) and DO actually comfort us in the moment.  But sometimes the habit of taking comfort this way can lead to addictions whereby the need for them controls us, rather controlling the comfort giving pleasure ourselves.

So what other choices for taking comfort are there?  Some turn to religion for comfort and find a peace in faith practises - reading the bible, meditating, singing worship songs etc.  Others get a massage, have a spa day or stay at home in their onesie or casual clothes to relax reading or watching a film.

Hugs are good comforters if you are able to ask a good friend or your partner for one.  They are free.  Good physical contact with another gives us a boost of energy and self worth.  Getting out in nature does this too but we are not always able either to ask someone for a hug or take ourselves off for a walk in the woods or by a river.

So what about a Comfort Box - to be readily available as and when required.  What would be in yours?  This one holds a cuddly bear, a cosy hot water bottle, a face pack, foot spa gel, bubble bath, lavender oil, books to inspire and soothe, some favourite music on an i-player; a soft scarf, a wooden cross to hold with a prayer card, and, out of view: a fluffy pair of slippers and a cuddle blanket (snuggle rug).  All readily available at no cost, within easy reach and no danger of over-indulging.  The comfort each gives is instant and doesn't come with a government warning about being bad for your health!




Thursday 3 January 2013

Clearing the clutter

NOT JUST BOOKS...

A new year, a new start ....
Clearing out the clutter part II

It is a hard task to let go of things that have shaped your life and for me it is most definitely BOOKS.  There are some I have had for over 30 years.  I kept them as visual reminders of how they had significantly helped me in several ways:
  • they have guided me to become who I am today
  • they influenced my spirituality
  • they comforted me in times of trouble
  • they enlightened/educated/encouraged me
  • they have de-stressed me
  • they have helped me in my relationships
  • they have focused me
  • they have lead me in ways I might never have gone
  • they have helped my health and well being
  • they have amused me
  • they have helped me escape the world as I entered the story and got engrossed with fictional characters
  • they have inspired me
It is like saying goodbye to very dear friends but in reality they are just books.  I will hope they find a new home and be treasures of others who find the written word to be as fascinating as I do.  I will never EVER forget them as the lessons they have taught me are etched in my brain.  The very essence of them run through my veins and reveal themselves in my daily life.

I handle them one more time, flicking through the pages and remembering...  I smile, I sigh... I am grateful to the authors and to the publishers.  Treasures in deed, but time for a new phase of life, new books to read in new ways (enter the e-reader) and who knows, may be I will write one of my own!




Wednesday 2 January 2013

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS

Have you been spontaneous lately and given anyone a bunch of flowers?  The power of a few pounds in hand exchanged for some lovely live colour and fragrance even, is wonderful in itself.  But to then give them away to someone in hospital, next door or to your best friend adds a magic beyond words.

The receiver is cheered, warmed of heart and feels appreciated in whatever their situation is at that moment.  They can be gazed upon for days, watched as they open and as they begin to fade so the situation of the moment in which they were given, fades too.  Life moves on, things change. 

Whatever your situation today - good or bad - remember this : 'It came to pass.  It didn't come to stay - it came to pass'.  So appreciate the moment and make someone happier by engaging in a Random Act of Kindness. It's kick back is you will feel happier too!